Why Women are Struggling to Secure Long-term Partner's

“Why are women so challenged to find love in the modern dating realm?”

We're at a very unique time in history.

Women are today, more empowered with freedom, and choices than ever, AND are expected to exercise those choices and take responsibility for them.

Women are no longer seen as a disenfranchised group and are now expected to act accordingly.

There is nothing holding the modern woman back from creating the life, relationships, and careers she wants.

Women can have children, travel, live in a different country, focus on their careers, get married, divorces freely, etc.

Men are recognizing this power now more than ever, as well. They see things are much different than they were for older generations

The result?

Society has to shift the way it views women as a collective. It may not be the best view, totally accurate, or fair.

When women were given deference, they were not expected to be responsible for their lives and happiness. It was expected that others would bridge this gap.

The public perception is that women don't need those bridges anymore.

Additionally, the groups (generally men) that have lost this responsibility (and power) will lash out in numerous ways. This is an expected response to having power or privilege taken away.

It's also a strategy to gain power back.

This doesn't just apply to men and women. We see this narrative playing out with race as well. The race riots we witnessed in 2017 (and the ones that were not televised) showed the backlash of a group losing its power over another.

This is a natural reaction by dominant groups - or groups in power - to maintain said power.

So it's no wonder we see this dynamic playing out between men and women in dating and relationships.

Historically, before women had this freedom, power, and choice they were given deference in relationships and marriages.

They weren't expected to defend themselves, work - or bring in that much money if they did. They were not expected to have full accountability for their lives, in the same way, more advanced groups were.

This is where beliefs like "women and children first" during emergencies, came from.

Remember, we're not arguing right or wrong here. We're just describing changes in our social landscape.

Now, disenfranchisement rituals and traditions are being challenged, such as:

• Men having to pay for dates

• Men giving away marriage out of obligation

• Men being held more accountable than women in relationships

Is this a good thing? I say yes.

This is what we want for all human beings. Equal power to create and live our lives as we desire.

This is the era of the goddess and queendom.

The god, and the kingdom.

Those who step into their power and royalty will have a much better time adjusting to these changes than those who don't.

Yes, you want more freedom. You want more power to do what you want to do.

Note: Many of the marriage traditions are solid. But we should be choosing these unions authentically. When we make authentic choices, we make lasting choices that keep our community and families together.

During the height of divorce in the 1970s, women were feeling unempowered in their marriages. They didn't feel like they could choose to enter these unions of their own accord. They eloped and followed the script out of obligation, and tradition.

This is where the 50% divorce metric originated.

When we make authentic choises, we make lasting choices.

That's a lot of families being broken because the primary spouses couldn't agree on what happiness would look like, and felt the only way out was abandoning ship.

Choose the life you desire for yourself, the family structure you desire for yourself, and the role your play in your family

Feel empowered to voice that.